An Interview with Captain Ruby: Dreams, Struggles and Having 2 Kids

Although his name is definitely a distinctive one, I have never had a face to face encounter with Fellexandro Ruby, aka @captainruby. As I walked inside the Wanderbites‘ office, I didn’t quite know what to expect. Should I be expecting a chatty and bubbly personality or a calm and intellectual person? Or perhaps a mix of both?

Soon enough, I found out who Captain Ruby really is through a 30 minutes interview with The Perks of Being 20, discussing about his 20-something struggles and dreams. Oh, we talked a bit about his preferred number of kids too!

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Meet Captain Ruby.
TPOB20: Who is Ruby in your own eyes?

CR: I used to be very egoistic in doing life. I was so hooked into the search of matters because I didn’t want to be a burden to my parents. When I saw my family going through a lot, I thought to myself that having enough money would actually solved all of these problems. That was why I spent the first 5 years of my after college life to make money. However, in the last 3 years of that period, I began to find myself in a road of self-actualization. I was reading books by Marcus Buckingham, Rene Suhardono and even Rick Warren’s Purpose Driven Life. I began to ask questions to myself. Why am I here in this world? That question started to change me. I started exploring my passion and when I decided to jump into it, everything pays off. The previous 2 years of my life, I began to see things differently. As I started to grow in my passion, I wanted to help others to grow in theirs. It’s no longer about me since I started to think about helping others finding their passion and achieving their dreams. At this stage, I want to create a vessel, a container for those who are willing to work for their dreams and passion.

TPOB20: So what is it exactly that you do?

CR: I am an explorer of passion. At Wanderbites, I write, take photos and videos to help restaurant owners by creating an engaging contents to reach their audience. At the same time, the topic of leadership, talents and people building are also interesting to me. That is what I do in Impact Factory where we create moments. We believe that moments create turning points in people’s life. That is why we focus on creating moments filled with ideas and engaging experiences to help people realize their true potentials.

TPOB20: Sounds amazing! Can you tell us a bit about Wanderbites? How did it started?

CR: It started back in 2009 when I started my own blog. After writing for a year, I started receiving requests for food photoshoot from several magazines, which I did on the weekend while I had my 9 to 5 on the weekdays. It got serious in 2011 when I started looking for photography mentors. Back then, food photography wasn’t even a thing. I realized that as much as I talk about passion, I wouldn’t be setting enough example if I hesitate on jumping fully into my passion in blogging. So I started saving up until 2012 when I decided to jump in as a full-time blogger. I saved up enough money to survive a year without a client. At the end of the year, I realized that I didn’t use any of my savings because God kept on sending me clients. God is good.

At this point of time, I began to know who Captain Ruby truly is. He is a passionate artist with cameras and gadgets in his holster, ready to use them at any opportunities. I can honestly say that I was very much inspired. Once I thought that it couldn’t be anymore inspiring, his values turned out to be somewhat uplifting.

TPOB20: What are the values that you hold firmly in the workplace and in life that you know cant be compromised?

CR: To me, pursuing your passion is a must, but do it responsibly. I can’t just decide to be a film maker, ask money from my parents, take off from my office and learn! You probably can do that in your early 20s, but once you’re above 25, you need to think it through. Even when you’re 21, you have to consider things like; how to deliver the message to your parents? How to tell them about your life choices? How to keep yourself out from their financial expenditures once you graduate? Once I took on this full time job,  I told my mom that she wouldn’t need to financially support me anymore, unless it is super necessary. I even said that once I graduated from college. It lifted a heavy burden from them because no matter what, our parents are very concerned of our well being.

“As early as possible, choose to be mature grown ups.”

After so many years of doing this, I had finally gained approval for the past one year. My parents started receiving positive approval about what I do from their surroundings. My peers started to support what I do and some would even envy my travel related work opportunities. It all started with a responsible chase of passion. As early as possible, be an adult. Sometimes I feel as if I grow up too fast. When I met Impact Factory for the first time, my partners were 40 years old and above. But through that, I realized a lot of things that I need to learn.

The second value would be honesty. If someone would say something that is on the contrary to his actions, I would be having a hard time believing him. He or she might as well try to be honest from the very beginning.

Another one would be hard work. It is more than talent. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work.
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TPOB20: When you started all this, what was the dream and vision that you had at that moment? Did you have it big, or did you have a smaller scale dream which evolved into something big as time passed by?

CR: I’ve never thought that I would be this much blessed. Having an office wasn’t even in the picture. When I quit my job, I was only focusing on creating good photos and writings as much as possible. Once everything worked out, I started feeling the need to be a part of something bigger that could inspire the younger generation to pursue their passion. The way had been opened for me to inspire them.

TPOB20: What was the toughest point in your life in pursuing all this? What made you kept going?

CR: This is actually the lowest point of my life. After a year of trying not to live for myself, I found out the hardships of doing that. It’s like inviting additional problems into your life. I can actually do this alone, but where’s the beauty of sharing your life with others? I don’t want to leave the world leaving such a negative legacy.

Of course I am currently struggling at a different level than I was a few years ago. Shifting from my office to the creative industry was one of the lowest points in my life as well. With that said, I wouldn’t mind going through that again. I’ve been there and I will get through it again. But this time, the level of difficulty is different. I’ve never been here before. It’s a new chapter.

TPOB20: What is your biggest dream that hasn’t been accomplished today?

CR: Having 2 kids. The dream just got to me a few years ago. So the next thing for me is getting married, which should happen sometime next year.

Although I had just accomplished one of my life goals a few months ago, I am planning to take it higher. I had finally brought my parents to travel together, so the next thing for me is to have my siblings and my parents to travel together. I want to create as many memories as possible with my family. Good memories and happy memories. Time is ticking.

In my head, I also envisioned Wanderbites as something that is sustainable. After my recent trip with Netflix, I am even more fueled to build chemistry among my team. Hopefully, one year down the road, I could have an independent team to sustain and develop.

Other than that, I am planning to create something new next year. It’s not be service based, but it’s going to be a product. Something that I can replicate fast that is related to food or travel.

TPOB20: Who is your inspiration?

CR: I never had a figure that inspires me the most. I observe everyone around me and take the littlest lessons that I can get. From my business partners, I learn about human management. How he never lost his temper in front of his staffs, not even once. I also learn about making a stand. People will like you and hate you, but at the very least they will remember you. From another business partner, I learn about the spirit of learning. He just picked up a yogi certification at 56 years old when he was doing music a year ago. 56 and still creating.

I am inspired by everything. I am even inspired by The Perks of Being 20! I like how you guys are so consistent in your weekly postings. It gives you a buzz in such a short time.

TPOB20: Thanks for that! We are very much inspired by you too. Last but not least, what is the perks of being 20 to you?

CR: When you are in between 21-23, I can list you thousands of perks. You really don’t have to worry about anything. You can literally be anything you want. You can try to do things with less risk. It is so much harder to risk it all when you are almost at your 30s, getting married and having someone depending on you. The responsibility will sort of hold you back from exploring.

My perks of being 20, is the freedom to explore anything. This freedom is so priceless and you can’t trade it with anything once you’re 25 and above. Once you’re 29, there are not so much perks.

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Do you know that feeling you experience after a good cup of coffee? Meeting Ruby gave me something much more awesome than that. He was clearly speaking to me as I struggle in my early 20s, trying to make sense of everything in the chase of my passion.

Meeting Ruby had gave me a new bucket list: achieve to inspire as many people as possible. 

Do you like this interview? We are thinking of doing it once a month to supply you with more inspirational role models. If you have any names in mind, leave it on the comment box below or simply shoot us an email.

Keep exploring!

DR. (@demasryan)


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